Should I sign divorce papers without an attorney?
No, you don't have to sign the divorce papers. The reality is, however, if one person wants to be divorced, then, in general, there is going to be a divorce. It sounds like you don't want to sign the papers. It also sounds like there are a number of unresolved issues in your case.
Can you divorce someone through the newspaper?
If you cannot find your spouse, you can request permission from the court to publish a notice of the divorce in the newspaper or post a notice in the courthouse. This is called a Motion to Serve by Publication or Posting.
Are divorce attorneys necessary?
A lawyer isn't necessary for a divorce when you have no marital assets or children. The quickest routes through divorce court involve relinquishing all of your rights for equitable support, as well as spousal support. If you don't want these things, then you don't need a lawyer.